Wikipedia defines reality as the conjectured state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined. Ironically though, there are various versions of reality as well. So, is it okay to assume that we have various versions of realities? Are we all entitled to one? Or do we get more than one version at the cost of being labeled a schizophrenic. This is the zone where perception and reality fuse together in an incomprehensible way, an amalgamation of complexities. Perception is the organization, identification and interpretation of sensory information in order to understand the environment (Wikipedia again. Like anyone else knows better). So we can look at it as a sort of coping mechanism; everyone has one, unique way of making sense of the stimuli and dealing with problems.
In the same way, the degree of being perceptive varies from person to person. There are some who live their life in a daze, unaware of crises around them (Such as Zayn Malik leaving One Direction) and others like yours truly who feel that it’s their business to know everybody’s business. In a recently published article that I read online, someone asked renowned physicist Dr. Stephen Hawking his views about Zayn Malik leaving one direction (seriously) and his response was the since there are many alternate realities, it’s possible that in an alternate universe, Zayn Malik is still a part of One Direction (thus giving many teenage girls new rays of hope).
On a serious note, when we think about perception and reality, a lot of ethical issues come to mind. How appropriate is it to invade in someone’s version of reality? What if we think that someone is living in denial or is delusional? Does it make it okay for us to make them aware of the reality, or rather what we think is the reality. We’ve all had to think of such things at some or the other point in life. Possibly while talking to a friend who has blind faith in her boyfriend who may not be worthy of such a level of trust. Or maybe when we convince ourselves that the paper that we attempted wasn’t so bad after all and we might scrape a pass (been there, done that). You want the best for the people you love, you don’t want to see them hurt. But it always comes up to the point where you think, that delaying the inevitable is a better, or rather a more convenient option. Why deal with confrontations when you can put them away in a box and hide them till you no longer can.
Depending on the situation I think we can decide when to intervene. If you have a bad tooth that’s infected, it will hurt a lot, and removing it might hurt even more, bleed a lot and leave you sore for a day or two more. The bleeding stops, give it a week and the socket will heal as well. In the wise words of House MD,“ Your perception of me won’t change who I am, but it will definitely change my opinion of you”. Sometimes what we think about some people isn’t the way they actually are. Through experience, I have learnt that sometimes people, for some unexplained reason choose to hide the best of them. Maybe they are afraid of being judged for not adhering to the standards of normalcy as set by the society. Having the fear of acceptance, fitting in with everyone.
The point I want to get across over here is that give people a chance before you build strong opinions about them, because you never know who might surprise you. The most unexpected people turn out to be the best things that ever happened to you, and there will come a point when you no longer remember a life without their presence in it. It’s up to us to accept them for who they are, their quirks or them being just plain weird. Think about it. Doesn’t everyone have their own insecurities? A part of them that they are sensitive or conscious about. We often suffer a bit internally, struggling with these insecurities and some people are just better at clamping them down and ignoring them. But I believe the ones who are aware about it are the strong ones, because they aren’t afraid of their inner demons, they’ve seen them and they battle with them every single day. This constant battle of perception vs. reality is actually a waste of time in a sense. The best we can do is make sense of things in our version of reality, give people a chance before building on our perception of them and accepting their version of reality and love them for who they are. “ I don’t know any perfect people, just some really flawed ones who are still worth loving ~ John Green”.