Being in a long distance relationship at university is undoubtedly difficult, but it definitely can be done. I’ve encountered a fair few individuals who believe otherwise, and take the pessimistic stance that they’ll never work out. I’m in my second year now, and my boyfriend’s a third year, so we’ve done over 2 years long distance and are still going strong!
For anyone concerned about a long distance relationship, here are some tips…
1) Communication is vital. Try to ensure you speak to one another every day. With the multitude of options available nowadays, such as Facebook, mobile phones and Skype, there’s really no excuse. You could even go old school and send your significant other a handwritten letter. Don’t go overboard and constantly contact each other though-you need to ensure you’re actually experiencing university life.
2) Visit one another (if possible!) Logistically, this may not be feasible if you’re studying at opposite sides of the world (I know my student loan couldn’t stretch to flights to Timbuktu), but if you’re both in the UK, try to make the effort and take it in turns to visit each other. Trains are pricey though so book in advance, don’t travel at peak times, think about splitting the fair and invest in a 16-25 railcard.
3) Keep yourself busy. Missing your partner is perfectly natural, but constantly wallowing alone in your room isn’t so healthy. So get involved in a society, socialise with friends, do the further reading or earn some money for those train tickets by getting a job. Staying busy should help prevent yourself from having a mini meltdown, and means you’ll have more interesting things to talk to about!
4) Make plans. One of the worst things about being in a long distance relationship is wondering when you’re going to see one another next. If you’ve got something fun planned, even if its months away, you’ll have something to look forward to.
5) Trust each other. Another obvious one, which is a key component in any relationship, but is arguably especially crucial long distance.
This advice also applies to couples who meet at university when the holidays are looming. Whichever position you’re in, long distance relationships are possible if you’re with the right person and willing to put in the effort. It’s a cliché but you truly do appreciate the rare moments that you get to spend together more. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that jazz. Let me know if you’ve got any other tips you’d like to share!